Why Be Cynical When You Can Be Jaded?
I'm going to expand upon the previous post regarding the girl from class (from here on out referred to as Girl 3, which is in regards to the 20 dates thing I was supposed to do) and what really bothers me about the whole situation. And also the most recent situation.
When Girl 3 and I first hung out, she mentioned recently getting out of a long relationship. I told her I didn't want to be a rebound and while I wasn't against just "having fun" to begin with, I wanted to know there was a chance for things to go somewhere serious. She assured me I wasn't a rebound. The relationship she'd just gotten out of had, for all intents and purposes, been over for months, but it wasn't until recently they finally decided to officially end it. And she said she was also of mind that she was interested in things going somewhere serious. Which is why I thought things looked so good.
And then a week later she tells me that she's not looking for anything serious since she just got out of a long relationship. Which was a big "WTF" moment for me, but I said ok. We didn't talk for a few days after that, but eventually I decided to text her and see how things were. She told me she met someone else she felt she was "more compatible with". So there I was pissed, confused, and blogging about it, but after a few days I decide to just move on and try again.
Shortly after I meet a girl (I think of her as Girl DB) while I'm out one night and we exchange numbers. A couple days later I asked if I could take her to dinner and she said yes, but her work was keeping her pretty busy at the time, so she'd let me know when she had a night off. After a few days of not hearing from her, I just assume that was her way of saying no (though I don't know why she would have put the word "yes" in her answer; the proper way to go about it is just saying work has her busy). But then a couple days ago she let's me know she has a night off. After a little talking about it, we decided where to go and when to meet. Then two hours before we're supposed to meet, she tells me she "has laundry to do". At any point during the day while we were texting back and forth she could've said something, but instead she waits til shortly before we're to meet up. WTF? I don't know the reasons why she'd act like that and I'm past the point of actually caring.
What bothers me about both these situations is the lack of backbone. Being rejected sucks, but I'd rather be outright rejected than avoided or led on.
I'm getting to feel like I'd be better off with prostitutes for my carnal needs and drugs for my emotional ones.
When Girl 3 and I first hung out, she mentioned recently getting out of a long relationship. I told her I didn't want to be a rebound and while I wasn't against just "having fun" to begin with, I wanted to know there was a chance for things to go somewhere serious. She assured me I wasn't a rebound. The relationship she'd just gotten out of had, for all intents and purposes, been over for months, but it wasn't until recently they finally decided to officially end it. And she said she was also of mind that she was interested in things going somewhere serious. Which is why I thought things looked so good.
And then a week later she tells me that she's not looking for anything serious since she just got out of a long relationship. Which was a big "WTF" moment for me, but I said ok. We didn't talk for a few days after that, but eventually I decided to text her and see how things were. She told me she met someone else she felt she was "more compatible with". So there I was pissed, confused, and blogging about it, but after a few days I decide to just move on and try again.
Shortly after I meet a girl (I think of her as Girl DB) while I'm out one night and we exchange numbers. A couple days later I asked if I could take her to dinner and she said yes, but her work was keeping her pretty busy at the time, so she'd let me know when she had a night off. After a few days of not hearing from her, I just assume that was her way of saying no (though I don't know why she would have put the word "yes" in her answer; the proper way to go about it is just saying work has her busy). But then a couple days ago she let's me know she has a night off. After a little talking about it, we decided where to go and when to meet. Then two hours before we're supposed to meet, she tells me she "has laundry to do". At any point during the day while we were texting back and forth she could've said something, but instead she waits til shortly before we're to meet up. WTF? I don't know the reasons why she'd act like that and I'm past the point of actually caring.
What bothers me about both these situations is the lack of backbone. Being rejected sucks, but I'd rather be outright rejected than avoided or led on.
I'm getting to feel like I'd be better off with prostitutes for my carnal needs and drugs for my emotional ones.
posted by Paul | 2:12 PM
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