20 Dates? Seriously? Ridiculous.
I've spent the past few years of my life obsessing over a girl that's obviously never going to feel the same. Which I know is pathetic, but it's not like I was without reason for doing so (not the least of which being I'm partially retarded). I'm not going into all those reasons though. However, I will go into something related to the subject of her...
I need to just forget about her and move on. And I don't mean this in some bitter way or anything like that. Just that I've realized I deserve better than what was going on between us and I'd really like to get to dating, or at least honestly trying to date (and yes, there is a difference between honestly trying to date and pretending you're trying to date so your friends don't harass you and/or you can try and make the person you really like jealous).
Now I know I'm not the "perfect" man. And the situation of my life right now is far from ideal. But overall, I'm a good guy (despite what some may say). And I know this. Also, I know quite a few guys that are ten times the douche bags I could ever be, yet somehow they're constantly going out with some girl, and sometimes more than one. If those guys can get dates, then there's no reason I shouldn't be able to as well, at least with a little effort (unless of course God really has cursed me into being perpetually single).
So anyways, I was telling this to my good friend Cassey earlier and she did exactly what I knew she was going to do, she agreed. At least with my notion that I should be moving on from the earlier mentioned girl, that I'm a good guy, and I really do deserve someone. She didn't agree with leaving the conversation at that though. She instead had (and probably still has) an idea, or some advice to be more accurate, and that is that I need to go on twenty dates with twenty different girls. Not in some man-whore type way or anything like that. Her thinking is that I've spent so much time focused on one girl, I may not even know what I really like in a girl anymore. I'm not going to say she's right and I'm not going to say she's wrong; I'm going to say she's half-right and half-wrong. I'm pretty sure of what I find attractive in a woman and I definitely know a lot of what I find completely unattractive. But at the same time, there may be some things I still need to learn.
So once I remember how to go about asking a woman out again (if I ever remember), I think I might give Cassey's advice a try. At least to a point, twenty dates sure seems like a lot.
I need to just forget about her and move on. And I don't mean this in some bitter way or anything like that. Just that I've realized I deserve better than what was going on between us and I'd really like to get to dating, or at least honestly trying to date (and yes, there is a difference between honestly trying to date and pretending you're trying to date so your friends don't harass you and/or you can try and make the person you really like jealous).
Now I know I'm not the "perfect" man. And the situation of my life right now is far from ideal. But overall, I'm a good guy (despite what some may say). And I know this. Also, I know quite a few guys that are ten times the douche bags I could ever be, yet somehow they're constantly going out with some girl, and sometimes more than one. If those guys can get dates, then there's no reason I shouldn't be able to as well, at least with a little effort (unless of course God really has cursed me into being perpetually single).
So anyways, I was telling this to my good friend Cassey earlier and she did exactly what I knew she was going to do, she agreed. At least with my notion that I should be moving on from the earlier mentioned girl, that I'm a good guy, and I really do deserve someone. She didn't agree with leaving the conversation at that though. She instead had (and probably still has) an idea, or some advice to be more accurate, and that is that I need to go on twenty dates with twenty different girls. Not in some man-whore type way or anything like that. Her thinking is that I've spent so much time focused on one girl, I may not even know what I really like in a girl anymore. I'm not going to say she's right and I'm not going to say she's wrong; I'm going to say she's half-right and half-wrong. I'm pretty sure of what I find attractive in a woman and I definitely know a lot of what I find completely unattractive. But at the same time, there may be some things I still need to learn.
So once I remember how to go about asking a woman out again (if I ever remember), I think I might give Cassey's advice a try. At least to a point, twenty dates sure seems like a lot.
posted by Paul | 1:21 AM
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